The one thing you don't want to ever have to go through, is the realization that the relationship you just ended was the perfect relationship for you. It happens a lot, people get caught up in the day to day of living and they let their relationship go a little bit and before they know it they just don't feel the connection with their partner that they used to feel. It can be easy to mistake this common issue with lost love. If that has happened to you and you want to set things right, here are the best ways to get ex back.
Before we get into the steps, I want you to carefully consider a few things. One thing you need to consider is what is the reason you want to get your ex back. This is extremely important because it's way too easy to decide you want them back for the wrong reasons. You may be able to convince yourself that you want them back because you love them, and maybe you still do, but if you were ok with the breakup until you heard they started dating someone else than suddenly you decided they were your soul mate, that's the wrong reason.
Another common reason, that many people don't admit to themselves, is that they just don't want to have to go through the hassle of finding someone new. Both of these things can be in the background without you really being aware of them so you need to take a minute, catch your breath and honestly analyze your motives.
You also have to have realistic expectations. While even the most impossible situations can work out, every situation is different and the people in the relationships are different. While this strategy has worked for many, many people it may not work for you. If your ex simply doesn't care for you anymore, there is nothing more you can do but to walk away with your head held high. Don't make things worse by trying to hold on to your ex beyond all hope or reason, learn when it's time to move on and let go.
If you really want the best chance possible for getting back with your ex, your best approach is to give them some space while you live your life. This is hard to do. For one thing, you'll miss your ex and want to talk to them. Another common issue is that it's easy to worry that they will meet someone new and get over you. Though that may seem viable, it's not really. It takes time to fallout of love with someone. If your ex still loves you, they won't fall for someone else soon after you've broken up. When I say 'soon' I mean for months, maybe longer. It takes time to get someone out of your heart and head. So give them space and don't worry about what they're doing, you've got your own life to live.
While you're giving your ex space you should be spending a lot of time with your friends and family, only the happy positive ones. Live your life to the fullest. This will show your ex that you are still the fun loving, emotionally free person they fell in love with. It will also allow you some much needed peace from your own thoughts. While you won't totally forget about your ex, if you're spending fun times with friends you may just be able to get a little relief from your pain.
If you and your ex have any shot at reconciling,both of you will need to commit 100% to working on the issues in your relationship. It's common for one person to want it more than the other so they'll be willing to put in more work, the problem is that that approach doesn't work. You both made the problems you'll both have to solve the problems otherwise there isn't any hope. after you've spent some time apart from your ex, call them and ask if they want to get together. When you meet, keep things easy going, and when you talk about your relationship, pay very close attention to the way they respond. That will tell you all you need to know.
These steps are the best ways to get ex back, they don't work all the time but they do work most of the time. Go for it, see what happens.
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